By marrying to soon, many individuals sacrifice their chance to struggle through this purgatory of solitude and search toward a greater sense of self-confidence. They glance at the world outside the family and with hardly a second thought grasp anxiously for a partner. In marriage they seek a substitute for the security of the family of origin and an escape from aloneness. What they do not realize is that moving so quickly from one family to another, they make it easy to transfer to the new marriage all their difficult experiences in the family of origin. .Augustus Y. Napier
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There are many people who are married too quickly. Many people just go through the motions of getting married, but do not actually get to know their partner. They do not feel that they have a connection with their partner, so they are reluctant to commit. This can be a recipe for disaster.
Not only does this approach lead to the couple being unhappy together, it can also lead to divorce or separation later down the road. The reason for this is that these people have no experience in dealing with each other. They have no idea what they will be dealing with in this marriage, so it is very hard for them to know what to do.
Marriage is not easy, but it is much easier when you know what you are getting yourself into.
Source: The Family Crucible: The Intense Experience Of Family Therapy
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